Apologies and excuses
May 31, 2023
Benjamin Franklin’s comments grab our attention because they often exude common sense that is not so common. One I recall is ‘Fish and visiting relatives stink after three days.’ A bit of truth there, but loved and thoughtful relatives can stay longer.
He also said “Never ruin an apology with an excuse.” Now there’s a bit of advice rarely followed. We speak harshly, apologize and add on that we were tired or cranky. We behave badly, apologize, and blame their instigation, or our weaknesses, or our upbringing. Our excuses are endless. And they speak loudly saying, ‘Let me water down my apology so I don’t look so bad.’
So here’s a challenge. Let’s practice just apologizing. Period. No add on, no excuse, no reasoning away our bad behavior. Besides asking that person, ask God as well. Forgiveness required.