Hard boundaries
September 27, 2023
Parents who are single again usually have a new and unexpected problem. They face new boundary issues with children. Whether divorce or death, whether you are Mom or Dad, you become vulnerable to pressures from your children to fix their problems, help them (sometimes that’s enabling). And you are ALONE. Allison Bottke provides and easy to remember helpful tool called ‘Sanity.’ Her 6-step acronym is found in her book, Setting Boundaries with your Adult Children. They apply for younger children as well.
- Stop enabling, stop blaming, stop the flow of money
- Assemble a support group
- Nip excuses in the bud
- Implement rules and boundaries
- Trust your instincts
Yield everything to God. I know starting over is hard, my friend, you miss your spouse. But we are not our children’s solution to their problems. God is.